Masculinity is okay, toxic masculinity is not. It is just as important to support men and end the toxic masculine stereotypes as it is to support females. Again, being masculine is okay, but *toxic* masculinity effects everyone horribly.
The idea that women cannot be abusive and controlling is again, part of patriarchy. Male victims should not be ignored. Feminists care about this. You use "men are abused and raped too" as an excuse BUT, OH, LOOK HOW YOU HANDLED THAT.
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