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Can I work with you privately without my spouse? We get this question all the time and the answer is a strong NO. We can't (and won't!) see you as an individual, but we CAN help you transform your relationship using one of the best processes in the world. Talk with us about our "No Blame, No Shame" couples intensive work!
How has Dr Gottman developed such a keen eye for identifying ill-fated marriages that he could predict which couples would divorce with 90% accoracy? His research, he says, reveals four key characteristics that significantly predict divorce. In his professional opinion, these characteristics are so damning and foreboding that Dr. Gottman has since dubbed them “the four horsemen.” Learn how to recognize these destructive behaviors and how keep them out of your relationship!
John Gottman borrowed the four horsemen of marriage from the four horsemen of the apocalypse in the Christian religion. The four horsemen of marriage are behaviors and feelings that can destroy a healthy relationship, according to Gottman's research. Contempt, criticism, stonewalling, and defensiveness are destructive behaviors that can strike at the core of the bond between you and your spouse, making intimacy nearly impossible. Discover how to recognize & combat these destructive patterns!
Feeling uncertain about your struggling marriage? It can be tough to grapple with doubts after all the effort you've put in, especially with a family involved. It's not uncommon to wonder if you married the wrong person when things aren't going as smoothly as you hoped. But don't worry, you're not alone. This post offers valuable insights and guidance to help you make a thoughtful decision about your next steps. | The Marriage Restoration Project
A lot of people use the silent treatment in marriage. However, this technique can actually be quite damaging to your relationship. If you’re on the receiving end of the silent treatment, no doubt you’re looking for how to put an end to it. Keep reading to develop a further understanding of why it’s being used against you, how you can react to it and how to make it stop.
If you're asking yourself 'should I get a divorce?', this quiz will help you to become more aware to the signs and reasons why your relationship isn’t working. If your relationship exhibits one or more of the following warning signs, it is time to wake up and take charge of your relationship and the marriage problems that you are experiencing. Let us help you gain clarity, decide whether it's still possible to save your marriage and plan the steps you should take to fix your relationship issues.
If you've been cheated on, you're no doubt feeling confused, hurt, betrayed and angry. Realize that the affair recovery process takes time. It makes sense that you would want to lash out at your spouse and that is not going to be in your best interest in the long run, so try to remain as calm as possible. You will want to find a calm way to discuss what happened. Read more about the process of overcoming an affair and whether it's possible for your marriage to heal after infidelity.
If you feel that you are on the brink of splitting up with your spouse, we invite you to learn more about the structured nature of Imago relationship therapy and how it helps couples to understand the real reasons behind why they've drifted apart, how to reconnect and how to communicate without blame and shame in order to connect on a deeper level both emotionally and physically. | The Marriage Restoration Project | Imago relationship therapy | Divorce prevention
The stages of a relationship are often misunderstood, and confused with what at first appears to be the end of a marriage. Do you find yourself thinking “I don’t love my spouse anymore”? Wondering if your marriage is over and beyond repair? These feelings are normal in a certain relationship stage. Learn more about the relationship stages from an Imago relationship therapist and discover how to move on from the power struggle stage to real love in a conscious, happy, healthy marriage.
The middle stage in a relationship can feel loveless, but it’s possible to bring back the loving feeling. Couples are often confused when their relationship takes a turn for the worst, but it’s actually quite normal. This stage of marriage presents the most conflict, but it’s the best time to turn toward each other to work on reconnecting with your spouse. Learn more about each stage and how you can overcome the conflict and power struggles in your marriage to get to the real love stage!
If you are making the investment of time and money to work on your relationship issues, you’ll want to make sure that you follow these marriage counseling tips so that you get the best return on your investment. Expecting just to show up and have the therapist wave a magic wand and your marriage problems is wishful thinking. However, there are some tangible things you can do to make your couples therapy a successful experience! | The Marriage Restoration Project | Marriage advice | Marriage help
It's normal and even healthy to vent to friends or your partner, but when taken to the extreme it's called trauma dumping. When you overshare traumas with someone repeatedly it can harm your relationship with that person. In this post, we'll clarify the difference between healthy venting and toxic trauma dumping, explain why some spouses overshare their trauma and give you advice on how to overcome this to restore the health of your marriage. | The Marriage Restoration Project
Married to an unwilling spouse who won’t work on your relationship issues with you? One of the questions I am frequently asked, as an Imago relationship therapist, is what do I do if my spouse is not interested in fixing our marriage. While it would be nice if we could convince our unwilling spouse to come to couples' counseling, there is still hope even if they seem to have given up. Discover what can be done to improve your marriage even if your partner seems uninterested!
Does your wife yell and scream at you often? If the behavior is relatively new there could be an unresolved issue or point of contention that you need to address together to stop the loud outbursts. If the yelling is chronic behavior you should know that yelling at your spouse is an unproductive and unhealthy behavior that needs to stop. Here’s what you should do if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who keeps shouting at you.
Do you wish your marriage could be better but your spouse isn’t interested in working with your to improve your relationship? Are there changes you’d like to see in your spouse but you don’t know how to even broach the subject? A couple should ideally work together on their marriage, but if you find yourself going at it alone, don’t despair. Here are 4 ways to improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested!
Emotional trauma can present some very challenging marriage problems, causing both partners to feel frustrated, unfulfilled, misunderstood, and even unloved at times. If your spouse has experienced trauma, either as a child or an adult, this comprehensive post will help you understand how trauma affects the brain and give you advice on how to best support your partner as they heal from emotional trauma.
Looking for ways to improve your marriage and considering couples' therapy? As an Imago relationship therapist explains, in traditional marriage counseling, in a standard 50 minute session, once one person starts talking, the session is almost over. Even if there is time for both to talk, the new events of the week can end up commanding triage each week so getting to the core issues is often impossible in weekly therapy. Discover the quickest way to fix your marriage problems!
As spouses, we sometimes do seemingly innocuous things that end up being much more harmful to our marriage than we realize, especially if we do them repeatedly over time. What might look like “normal” behaviors may in fact be a warning sign of underlying distress within your marriage. Look out for these 5 common behaviors that may be slowly ruining your relationship! Becoming aware and taking action will help you sustain a healthy relationship with your spouse!
Marriage counseling tends not to work in certain situations. It can be helpful, but for many couples, it doesn’t necessarily work, even with a good therapist. Most counseling sessions are 50 minutes a week. (If you are lucky, it might be 90 minutes.) That’s not a lot of time for two people to talk, especially if you’re in crisis. Understand why marriage counseling doesn’t usually work in these situations and what else can be done to save a marriage and work through your marriage problems.
How do you know when your marriage is over? Many experts and couples themselves (maybe even you) think that it is possible for couples to simply grow apart and that alone is a valid reason for divorce. As a relationship therapist who has helped countless couples save their marriage, recover from marriage crises and restore the connection they once shared, here are the solutions to the top 8 most common reasons for divorce. | The Marriage Restoration Project | Sings your marriage is over
Have you tried couples' counseling and found that it didn't work for you? Or that it actually made things worse? We discuss 5 red flags that, if happening to you in marriage counseling, are a sign that this therapy is actually hurting your marriage rather than helping it. This vital info will also help you know what to look for in couples' therapy, how to find a competent marriage counselor & how to make the most of the marriage counseling you choose to address your marriage problems
Productive marital conflict can help you work through complex challenges and compromise on important issues. But it’s easy to get reactive during conflicts and feel the survival urge to fight, flee or freeze. If reactivity becomes the norm, you could also become unhappy and frustrated in your marriage. Try using mindfulness to become more aware, present and productive as you resolve conflicts. Here are 8 powerful tips to start using mindfulness to address your marriage problems!