Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame you for "having feelings." Abusive people do this
He absolutely failed! His wife and kids will never trust him or depend on him or his word ever again. His new wife is oblivious and naive to think he honors his word. We are proof to that. You had a family. You chose poorly.