I think every woman needs to learn to not need anyone and to always always be able to hold herself up alone. Nothing wrong with love of being with a man, just learn to keep your independence! Needing and wanting a man in your life is different.
It can be a bittersweet thing but it's good to listen to the truth rather than accept a comfortable lie. Even if you cant see something but know it's real deep down, believe it. Instincts can show a lot of true colors